Younan Says!

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Dear Younan,
These days, I've been feeling rejected by my best friend who I've known since fourth grade. Whenever I try to talk to her, she just tries to get away or makes some rude comment. The other day, I sent her a text asking if she wanted to go to the library and she said she was busy. That's not the problem though. When I went to the library alone, I saw her sitting with another girl, a girl who she had previously titled as "snobby". I don't know what to do! We're supposed to be BFFs, what's going on?!
~All Alone

Dear All Alone,
You've known this girl for a long time, right? Some adults would say that she's probably just going through a "phase" where she wants to meet new people. Could be, or couldn't be. But seriously, if you take this approach anything could be just a "phase". Loving the color pink could be a "phase" (I'm snorting as I type this), being a GIRL could be a "phase" if that's what you think! You make your judgement. Maybe she's having emotional troubles. Things like that happen! You should talk to her. Believe me, hon, I know how hard it is to confront someone who's being a jerk, but just push yourself. Suck it up, girl! Ask her if it was something you said or did, and if it was, just apologize. Don't apologize for anything you didn't so though, that'll just make her think that she can kick you around. You have to know: Fake friends will leave you behind if that's what the crowd is doing. Real friends will just kick the crowd in its big behind. But listen to me, she might just push you away again, that's just how middle school girls are. If she really is your friend, she'll come around and if not, just forget about her. I'm NOT going too lie to you. You might have to spend a few hours crying in your bedroom and eating Ben and Jerry's on your couch, but you'll let go soon enough. REMEMBER: don't leave her before finding out her reasons. She could be a Grade A Jerk, or maybe it's her who's feeling rejected.
Hopefully it helped!

Dear Younan,
I have a English project due in four days. My problem isn't that I can't complete it, it's that I'm too scared to present it in front of my class... My teacher says that the oral presentation is worth half of the project grade, and if I fail it, my grade will plummet, and if It goes down, my straight A record will be ruined, and if THAT happens, my parents would be furious!!!! I've been afraid to talk in front of crowds for years. Whether it's my school play, talent show, or just if I'm picked to answer a question in class, I just freeze! I don't know what to do!
Help, help, help!!!!!

Dear Shy,
Let me just say, you're not alone with that problem. Darling, how much do you want to bet that at least five other people in your grade have the same problem. There are a lot of things you can do to get rid of your fear:
1. Imagine everyone in their underwear!
2. Practice speaking in front of your family and friends. If you're thinking "But I can't!.....", Well stop whining! Force yourself. You won't get ANYWHERE if you keep crying about it. I know I'm being harsh, but hon, you've got to face it.
3. Tell your teacher about your "Little Insecurity" He (or She) will understand. Your teacher could give you some tips to help.
4. Just knowing that nobody will make fun of you. If you mess up, only a real pain in the butt would make fun of you. Just tell them, "You've messed up SO many times in class, so you shouldn't laugh." Well, try not to be too harsh or you'll probably get detention, but you get what I'm trying to say.
The final piece of advice I have for you is: Do your best! No, do even GREATER then your best!
I know you'll get an A+!!

Writer: Yourtana
Editor: Jessica